SAD TRUTH OF LIFE

SAD TRUTH OF LIFE

Please look beyond SAD TRUTH OF LIFE as everything has an end so either the life will end or the sorrow will end... the most easiest way to live is by being happy with what WE HAVE AND NOT WITH WE DONT HAVE.(SAI NATH)


VERY STRONG DETERMINATION : A GOOD CHARACTERISTICS OF WOMENS is that THEY DON’T SPEAK UP ON SERIOUS THINGS BUT ARE MORE DETERMINANT THEN MEN WHILE DOING IT.

GOD BLESS ALL THOSE WHO believe in self to that extent that they believe that they can change their destiny AND MOVE AHEAD TO A PATH WHICH HE/SHE IS UNSURE TO REACH i.e. THE DESIRED BUT UNKNOWN DESTINATION.

Some shorterms or poetic truth of life
1
JINKI KOI MANZIL NAHI, UNKO RASTO KO HI MANZIL BANA CHAHIYE,
Kyonki HAR RASTA ZINDAGI KO SATYA KI CHOR PAR LEJATA HAI…
Jahan se zindagi chut to jati hai, par safar khatam nahi hota hai.

2
AAGE JO RAKHA HAI, WO HI TO ZINDAGI KA RAAZ HAI,
KHUL JAYE TO BHAV (FEELINGS) BAN KAR NIKAL JATA HAI,
CHUP JAYE TO INTAZAR BANKAR SATATA HAI…

3
JAB KHUSHI DARVAJE PAR HO AUR AAPKI NAZAR KISI AUR JAGAH HO,
TO KHUSHIYAN KYA KARE…KITNE PAL TAK KARE AAPKA INTAZAR…
YE WOH HAWA KA JHOKA HAI, JISE KISNE ROK HAI,
JISKI NAZAR PADE USKI HO JATA HAI, PALAK JAPAKTE HI GUZAR JATA HAI.

4
The hidden truth is i.e. SACH TO YE HAI

‘SUN’ IS THE LIGHT THAT WAS CREATED TO REMOVE THE DARKNESS BUT THE FACT IS THAT DARKNESS WAS ALWAYS PRESENT beneath the light and came out once the light moved OUT….

SO THE ONLY WAY TO HAVE LIGHT IS ENLIGHT OURSELF WITH THE TRUTH OF LIFE i.e. DARKNESS IS BENEATH AND HAPPINESS IS THE SELF ENLIGHTMENT WHICH COMES WITH THE ACCEPTANCE OF TRUTH AND THIS REALITY CAN RELIEVE US FROM THE FEAR OF SADNESS AND FEAR OF BEING LOST IN THE DARK WHICH IS NOTHING BUT A TRUTH OF LIFE THAT LIGHT AND DARKNESS BOTH EXIST AND WILL CONTINUE TO EXIST EVEN IF WE DO NOT EXIST.
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TRY OUT any one of below EXAMPLEs TO try out, do YOU control things or the destiny pulls you towards it:-

7 DAYS SCHEDULE
A.
GET UP AT 7AM SHARP DAILY WITHOUT FAIL…. KEEP THE ALARM ON OR DO ANYTHING THAT WILL SURELY WAKE YOU UP AT 7 AM…………. I AM SURE YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO DO IT regularly HOW EVER strong your DETERMINATION MAY BE…

B.
SAY “ I KNOW WHAT I AM AND TODAY I WILL DO WHAT I WANT…………” FOR 10 TIMES ON THE SAME TIME I DID ON THE FIRST DAY ………… I AM SURE YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO continue IT.

C.
TRY TALKING TO 100 PERSON A DAY ATLEAST FOR SEVEN DAYS……………. I AM SURE THERE WILL BE NO CONSISTENCY WHATEVER YOU MAY DO ……….TO ACHIEVE IT………….


THE above are JUST A SIMPLE EXAMPLE to demonstrate how DESTINY CONTROLS YOU AND NOT YOU…………only act accordingly. TO PUT IT POSITIVELY, BELIEVE IN YOU WITH A FIRM BELIEVE THAT THERE IS SOMEONE WHO TAKES CARE OF YOU AND YOU ARE ONLY JUST A TOOL TO EXECUTE HIS WISHES………………. GOOD OR BAD

Paschatap or Guilt

Few Past thoughts ... just pasting it



These are thoughts not a precedence, differs from case to case n person to person n time to time.

The development between two relationship determines the incompatibility which leads to “Paschatap
Examples are there who live happily with the acceptable adjustments but are rare as it requires few but very important factors to not engrave the feeling of “Paschatap”.

1. Complete transparency from the inception of your relationship, immediately after it is conceived in the relationship womb, so that partner can make up his/her mind to continue with the relationship or not? Practical difficult in the above is “You may get only 0.5% people who would accept you as it is so failure to get a good partner would put you in another problem i.e. depression of being left alone and no one to continue the relationship”.

I feel Complete Transparency is the ideal way to start a new relationship in love or marriage and thereafter continue to do so, so that you can trust and be happy with what you have received. Flip side of such transparency is that you may find partners exploiting such feelings and consider you foolish, but then the choice is with us, should we suffer the gulit of unsaid truth or suffer for being good as goodness will certainly bring in good fruits in the existing relationship.

2. Love and Care [ need not be commented as we all taste it, day in and day out]

3. Trust as much as on yourself. [ continuity is difficult but if attained then develops a strong bond and transparency in relationship. This also helps in building the bond and attachment]

4. Destiny [ the nature has mysterious thing hidden in it and what may take you off or bring change in you, we ourself do not know………. But I feel whatever comes in our way, we should take it as it is and live it sincerely and from bottom of our heart,,,, rest will automatically flow………….

I can remember a filmy dialogue of “Om Shanti Om"…..something on this lines “tujhe pane keliye itni siddhat se mohabat ki hai, ki saari kayanat ne mujhe tujh se milane ki sagish ki hai”
[ In short nothing can stop you if destiny wants it to happen, no matter whatever you may do, whatever you may think or whatever any one may do………… nature supports those who become part of it for reasons not known to us but the nature knows it why it is helping…]

unusual words to learn

ossify - To change into bone; to become set in a rigidly conventional pattern.
Synonyms: rigidify, petrify
Usage: It takes millions of years for organic remains to ossify and turn into fossils.

jilt - To deceive or drop (a lover) suddenly or callously.
Synonyms: cast aside, leave
Usage: Since being jilted by his fiancée, he had grown to distrust all women.

prate - To talk idly and at length; chatter.
Synonyms: blabber, palaver, piffle, prattle
Usage: I know the age better than you do, though you will prate about it so tediously.

inspissate - To undergo thickening or cause to thicken, as by boiling or evaporation.
Synonyms: condense, thicken
Usage: The recipe then instructed the cook to inspissate the sauce by adding flour.

grovel - To lie or creep in a prostrate position, as in subservience or humility.
Synonyms: cower, cringe, fawn
Usage: The prisoners groveled before the emperor, hoping that he would commute their sentences

MAN OF TROUBLE

This is a short story about a person who always found himself into trouble even when he was good and even when he was bad to others.

My good friend, was born to give trouble to his mother and though always wanted to make her happy.
He loved his sisters so much that fought with everyone to protect them from ugly and evil hands of the man, but they both got into trouble as they were more prone to such attack because he fought openly argued with all such men

He loved his wife so much because he believed that love will change any ugly, crooked and short temperred women but found a wife who had equally got obsessed with him and caused trouble to all those who came close to her husband. This was due to the love that he gave to her or may be she believed that "no one has any right over her husband and hence discarded/disrepected every relationship that she believed could ruin her obsession....again he was a trouble for other though did not wanted to be

He loved his friends and selflessly helped them out but found that there also he was a trouble because he believed that he was the best to advise and always took charge and control of his friends life or handle problem without realizing that there was a limit to intrude in ones life.

He decided to love himself and let all others free but there also he proved to be a trouble to himself, as his stringent and expectations from himself reached to such peak that today his body and mind both are in trouble.

I was thinking, what is wrong in this person though he is kind, helpful, successful, ground to earth and so on but today is isolated from relationships that he wanted to live with and enjoy....

The moral of the story is do not be too good or dont expect from others, because your happiness is within you and when you search for it outside you build walls of expectation. Keep a safe distance so that you are liked but not loved. Ensure learnings are shared not your secrets.

Become spy of yourself and not others, the moment you do that you will land into a trouble of island with complex circumstances as there are lot to see and get involved in others life which can not be controlled by any one of us. ONE WAY BOSS....NO BRIDGE .... NO ROPE TO PULL YOU OUT OF MUCK AND MURK. YOUR WHOLE LIFE WILL BE LOST IN SPACE WHERE UNDERCURRENTS OF RELATIONSHIP WILL FLAP YOU FROM ONE END TO OTHER GIVING NO OPPORTUNITY TO THINK WHAT WAS YOUR GOAL IN LIFE.

The best way to say "good bye" is to say "keeping growing and going.... My best wishes are with you"

The best way to keep away a person on mobile is to "Receive his call promptly and hold him for long by engaging yourself with some other discussion or call.....and at the end say "sorry .... to keep you holding...." don't let him speak...or utter any word....and then at the end say "sorry I will have to disconnect as I have to do something urgent...Ops...hope you don't mind"


The best way to get along with a person for long is never open up with him and share very little to keep the relationship continued......

The best way to be happy in life is never seriously love some one....including your wife, children, parents, friends, etc but always make them feel that you love them and are always around them..... Whenever needed keep your presence but engage yourself with some serious events/convey your disappointment of not being there though wanted to do so.... On a closing note, have a small chat to hear them out. Let them lead their own life....as there nothing that you can change in ones life as you are either the spectator or coach of a live game where there is no time to practice ...as every moment is live scoring opportunity and participating is not a choice but mandate....

The best way to calm down your undercurrent is chat with the person because of which the trauma of undercurrents is increased either by out-bursting the anger or by listening him/her. Alternatively, you can divert your emotions towards your hobby or near / dear friends so that the peace of mind can avoid any further damage to the other relationships...

The best way is not always the shortest way because sometimes achieving every thing early makes the live more difficult to live in the later stages because there should be something that can keep you moving in life.............

If you are in love.... My Advise is not to be in love...........but to keep going with the happenings in life, though love is also a part of intake that the nature wants you to have hence cannot be avoided completely
If Love happens then....
=>Always let your love partner not know your true feelings for him/her.... this gives you more time to understand and say "no" comfortably if your mind changes....

=>Let him/her wait for you or your response...let him/her keep guessing about what you ..... Let him/her run to look for you.....

=>Always go with friends/sister/mother/father to meet him/her so that there is not much to say between the two and meeting ends with "see you tomorrow" note... and understand what he feels thereafter....

=> Make him/her come on your knees either because of love or because has been left with no choice...but if coming on knees due to no choice then remember there is very little that you can do to take it a long way....which means plan a short term goal only with him and try your luck when he/she realizes the love in you for her/him.

Today the best thing I can do is stop writing because many of you might have been bored of going through such advises..... But I have to keep going as everything cannot be done for enjoyment and someday you all will also realize it, as life is a cyclic change that begins with childishness then move on towards maturity and then ends with childishness packed with maturity(oldagers), though the reflection of either of it or both can be seen at many times... It is because he is confused should he/she enjoy it like a child or should behave like a matured person and brain at that age is not capable of arriving at a conclusion.....scientifically..... but the truth is that before you die.... the nature wants its pure hearted child back ....................

Change with Common Characteristics of High IQ Creative Genius

Some thoughts before you read about “Common Characteristics of High IQ Creative Genius”, and introspect to see how much close you are from a GENIUS. (Genders are addressed in brackets “()” differently then from the normal practice, to keep away from the gender bias, this may distract your reading ability but will certainly pause you understand the message conveyed to innovate the language )

“Change can never be a fear for a person who believes in h(im/er)self because such a person believes that, (s)he can change things in the way (s)he wants it, provided (s)he accepts the change for h(im/er)self and then make the others believe it thereafter.”

“Changes always bring challenges and challenges make a person stronger; the person who collapses or resist change with a fear that it will take away the glory and pride that, (s)he enjoyed will not sustain because glory and pride is an acknowledgement from the people around you and not from those people who do not meet you or see you or watch you, so if you are capable then the appreciation will follow from the people around you, rest all things gets swallowed by the past, because you NEITHER created a history for people to admire/abuse/create curiosity to know you more, so on NOR made an admiral space to remember in the present/future for the dictates or beauty that inspires others to walk through the future in present that was never built before though conceived by you.”

“Pride and Glory is your conduct that others believe and also appreciate you either by respecting you or by blessing you for bringing the change that a person could not bring but though wanted to see it, or the change that was appreciated by people when success could be achieved or admired even if failed after sincerely putting the efforts.”

“Success, for me, is not what I achieved but what I consistently achieve with all the changing circumstances and ongoing challenges thereof”

I have taken your precious time without making you realize that you are one of those geniuses who are part of this world’s success either by being a contributor / participator / appreciator/ criticizer in growth of the future which is going to be enjoyed by your successors, without (s)he realizing, what have you done for h(er/im) in past.

Common Characteristics of High IQ Creative Genius[extract from a website, just wanted to share it with you all]

Somebody who only reads newspapers and at best books of contemporary authors looks to me like an extremely near-sighted person who scorns eyeglasses. He is completely dependent on the prejudices and fashions of his times, since he never gets to see or hear anything else. And what a person thinks on his own without being stimulated by the thoughts and experiences of other people is even in the best case rather paltry and monotonous. There are only a few enlightened people with a lucid mind and style and with good taste within a century. What has been preserved of their work belongs among the most precious possessions of mankind. We owe it to a few writers of antiquity (Plato, Aristotle, etc.) that the people in the Middle Ages could slowly extricate themselves from the superstitions and ignorance that had darkened life for more than half a millennium. Nothing is more needed to overcome the modernist's snobbishness.

(Albert Einstein, 1954)

Having read many great philosophers over the past ten years (see Bibliography) I feel that I am reasonably well qualified to comment on some common characteristics of 'creative genius'.

i) They tend to live fairly isolated lives such that they have a great deal of time to think, and they are not so indoctrinated with the beliefs of their time, thus they are more likely to create / discover new knowledge.

ii) They tend to be very stubborn and believe that they are right, but this stubbornness is founded on a passion for Reason and Truth.

iii) They believe that things can be understood and explained by Science and Reason. That reason is founded on Principles and their logical deductions which are True if they correspond with our Senses. (Thus opinion plays no part!)

iv) They tend to be both curious and very good at understanding how things work. Often philosophers were also inventors.

v) They tend to be non-specialists with a diversity of knowledge (very different to modern education!)

Law of Layman

I have come across people with different perception about application of law at the convenience of their interpretation... Why there is different perception/interpretation of the same law in mind of the layman?

Answer could be ....What is the Layman expecting from the law? This could be the core reason of such interpretation of convenience.

Even If you know that the act done by you is wrong but still you do it because you believe that "I am wrong when i am caught", i would like to amend this saying as "I am worng when you prove me wrong".

Here the next questions comes in our mind is, Who is the "you" in the above saying? It could be the "Society" or "Community", "Panchayats", "the law enforcement bodies(LEB)", etc who are empowered by legislation or by custom/usage. To name the authorities we can say them as Panchayats, Councils, Police, DRI, Tribunals, CBI and finally the courts of justice with heirarchy governing the appeal/escalation.

The "Jurisdiction" applicable to the "wrong", depends on type of wrong and place of wrong and all such wrong are qualified as an offence, infringement, breach and so on.

The authority holding the office of Jurisdiction sanctions (decides) the penalty or conviction if proved you wrong.

The next questions comes in our mind is, In what way it will impact my life?.... can I escape from being penalized or convicted?...if you are able manage to a rightful escape at any level then though you are wrongdoer in practice but become a rightdoer in law.... unsayingly the politicians have proved it.

"NO LAW TO PROTECT BREACH OF TRUST"
The fear or convenience crops in the mind from the point you are on the scanner of the LEB/other authorities. The first thing we look for is locate a guide to find the managed or legal escape routes =>like defer the issue, pay off and get rid-off, use corrupt means or influence to come out of it, etc though to large extend all illegal (or managed legal) escape routes can be broadly acheived by two means (a) "Use of Money" and (b)"Use of Relationship". Trust here is core factor as there is no legal recovery or recourse to failure of such relationship.

The factor of trust is necessary, whether you use legal or illegal means of escape, but most of them believe that reliable is illegal means and unreliable is legal means, why? As the amount of Trust in such relationship is very high due to fear of death/penalty or ethics that they follow("Dhande ka usul");

But when it comes to legal means, transit of fear or convenience into trust raises several doubts on the person to be trusted like (1) Are you capable? (2) Will you able to convince through the LEGAL systems? (3) How long will it take? (4) When will the issue end? (5) Can he assure me success? (6) Even if he assures me SUCCESS can i believe him because there are others also who would not go by legal means or may use influence then what will i do? and so on...the series of doubt will continue like "live volcano"; SUCH doubts will have no time limit or consistency of intervals or would have no fixed frequency to raise doubts or even conclude otherwise.

The simple answer a Lawyer can give is the COURTs or LEBs/ authorities will determine and as we are on right track so lets go ahead... rest leave it to time...there are many level at which we can fight it, even if they are bias or adopt illegal means.
(OR, to cut short the doubts and discussions.... the lawyer would say...)
"I am confident, you neednot worry we will take care of it..."
The thought behind it is that if you pay well then he will demand more and if you cannot pay then he will ask you to knock the next door... as there are plenty.... to use you or please you.

We need to ask a question to ourself, are you confident that you are right then change can surely happen but needed is right attitude, a good strategy, determination, and trust in the pleader.

Always be clear with what is that you want to achieve by fighting and in what way it will help you to live your life with necessity and principles that you want to bind yourself.

I am leaving the thought incomplete here ......Happy legal living....

Shades of Emotions

FACETS of LIFE: Like we know life has various shades during their natural cycle starting from birth to death, similarly emotions do also have various shades....can any one guess how much....infinity....though we map the emotions into love, anger, care, attention, lurch, selfishness, sorrow, depression, enjoyment, and so on

I believe that every person however selfish or self less he/she may be there are moments where a persons emotes opposite to his/her basic nature.....when.... he is in true love or under tremendous fear with someone..... maybe with his/her child or with his/her love or with his/her parents....

Act of kindness and act of revenge is not a basic nature of any person, it is reflection of your ongoing or changing emotions.....

It is true that basic nature of a person cannot change even if his life may completely change; He or she may ignore to react as per his/her basic nature but the clouds of fear or traumas of emotions, will one day break this constraints and make him what he/she is....
This is just a first blog not writing much but i am sure soon i will improve to emote well which is the intention of this blog....