Few Past thoughts ... just pasting it
These are thoughts not a precedence, differs from case to case n person to person n time to time.
The development between two relationship determines the incompatibility which leads to “Paschatap
Examples are there who live happily with the acceptable adjustments but are rare as it requires few but very important factors to not engrave the feeling of “Paschatap”.
1. Complete transparency from the inception of your relationship, immediately after it is conceived in the relationship womb, so that partner can make up his/her mind to continue with the relationship or not? Practical difficult in the above is “You may get only 0.5% people who would accept you as it is so failure to get a good partner would put you in another problem i.e. depression of being left alone and no one to continue the relationship”.
I feel Complete Transparency is the ideal way to start a new relationship in love or marriage and thereafter continue to do so, so that you can trust and be happy with what you have received. Flip side of such transparency is that you may find partners exploiting such feelings and consider you foolish, but then the choice is with us, should we suffer the gulit of unsaid truth or suffer for being good as goodness will certainly bring in good fruits in the existing relationship.
2. Love and Care [ need not be commented as we all taste it, day in and day out]
3. Trust as much as on yourself. [ continuity is difficult but if attained then develops a strong bond and transparency in relationship. This also helps in building the bond and attachment]
4. Destiny [ the nature has mysterious thing hidden in it and what may take you off or bring change in you, we ourself do not know………. But I feel whatever comes in our way, we should take it as it is and live it sincerely and from bottom of our heart,,,, rest will automatically flow………….
I can remember a filmy dialogue of “Om Shanti Om"…..something on this lines “tujhe pane keliye itni siddhat se mohabat ki hai, ki saari kayanat ne mujhe tujh se milane ki sagish ki hai”
[ In short nothing can stop you if destiny wants it to happen, no matter whatever you may do, whatever you may think or whatever any one may do………… nature supports those who become part of it for reasons not known to us but the nature knows it why it is helping…]
